Falling in Love for the First Time
Falling in love can be an amazing feeling, however, they say, to love is to destroy. As a point in my life I actually believed that. At some point I had given up on love before it even existed. Love is liberating, if it holds you down or shackles you down maybe it isn’t love it is a waste of your time.
I met my partner on a dating website (surprising, yes). The intention wasn’t to fall in love but I did, I fell so hard. I fell in love with how he made me feel, I fell in love with how with one small touch he made me feel alive.
He was there when I was at my weakest point and he stayed. He stayed till I was okay. He stayed through my roughest times. He kissed me like there’s no tomorrow and held me till I was whole again. Falling in love for the first time was beautiful. It was something I couldn’t really put into words.
The feeling of total abandon, feeling alive, being loved and cherished, sharing memes and memories and everything that just means something to you.
People find it really strange when I tell them I found the love of my life on a dating website. I mean, they are like, how is that even possible, right?
How can you fall in love with somebody you barely know? I mean, come on, arranged marriages happen all the time. That’s stranger, if you ask me.
I always tell them that sometimes you meet people are you just click and there is nothing bad about it. It just happened.
It wasn’t planned, but I am so glad that it did happen. If you ask me, it was probably the best thing ever happened to me.
It showed me the beauty of life. It showed me no matter how difficult it gets, if you have somebody to come home to, it is worth everything. Every hug, every kiss, every sweet talk, makes your life worth it.
Every fight, every little thing just gets you closer, but sometimes it is just not meant to last. Sometimes when it starts hurting too much to hold on, you let it go. You let it go, when you know it’ll just make lives miserable.
Falling in love is still a beautiful feeling and I wouldn’t change a thing, I wouldn’t change my past because it all led me here.
No relationship is perfect and you have to decide if that person is worth the struggles, if that person is worth sticking around for. If they are somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Just remember that things get rough but it doesn’t mean you give up without a fight. It doesn’t mean that you stop fighting for somebody who means the world to you.
Are you willing to put in an effort into it? Relationships are hard work. They require effort and a lot and lot of patience, but in the end it is worth it if you think that person is worth it.
People love, and they fall out of it, it is a reality no one can deny. Sometimes people just drift apart and hanging onto it brings you no good. When that happens, move on.
You’ll probably never stop loving them but love yourself enough to let them go. Let them go and realize that you are more important than anything else in the world. You are worth everything and shit happens, but it doesn’t mean you stop loving yourself.
You don’t have to compromise yourself just because you are in love with the idea of love. Find yourself first. Love because you find it liberating and that person brings you peace and joy, and not because you are lonely. Love is not a fantasy.
Love is a verb, it is something you do. It is a commitment and a promise to take care of each other no matter how hard do things get, but it has to be from both sides.
Make yourself your first priority and live your life, Nobody’s always going to stay by your side. People always leave.
I fell in love and I still love him with all my heart but I yet had to let him go because it started to hurt the both of us.
It taught me a lesson though; a lesson to always put yourself first, a lesson to prioritize myself and take care of myself first. A lesson that no matter what I am the only person who got my back and a lesson that I need to love myself and that is possibly the biggest gift that I can ever give to myself.