Parents can be hard to deal with and especially when it comes to the desi culture. Their reactions are almost always unpredictable and you never know how would they react but there is one thing that is common among every desi parent and that is their over protectiveness.
All desi parents are overprotective and all desi parents want to be a part of literally everything you do; from maybe your personal journals to the half-jokingly said inquiries about whether or not you have a partner (and expecting the answer to be no of course).
Here are some things that I went through because I had strict parents and I am sure everybody who has strict parents can relate to this.
Been there done that. I have always been the kind of person who loves to write journals. Had been questioned when they caught my journals of course. Since then I became a pro at hiding Journals (and the gifts by my partner).
There is still a chance of them finding it out but I think I am safe for now. Kind of need to upgrade my hiding skills. Been a little careless lately but it’s time I change my tactics.
Having strict parents means a strict curfew. I always had a curfew of 6pm, but that didn’t stop me from going out or having fun though. Yes, I had a death wish. I am a bit more responsible now.
Sometimes I wonder how I am still alive, but was it worth it? Totally yes (as long as you do not get caught or do something unsafe).
Looks in the room? A big no for them. They will get suspicious and have their ears against your door the moment they hear a click of your door being locked.
Locking up your drawers? Oh mayn, they’ll just find a separate key and dive right in, but it is okay, they won’t find anything there ;) You know your way around that.
They are just under view that you do not require privacy, where you are 14 or 24. You’ll always be a baby as long as you are living under the same roof and they cannot help it.
If you have strict parents, meetups with friends can be a huge task. You always depend on their mood and you have gotten pretty smart about it. Now you know when to ask them for the hang out you have been wanting with your friends since months. If you are smart about it they’d say yes.
Keeping your love life alive with strict parents around is a huge task. From cars to maybe sneaking into your partner’s house, you have taken risks; anything than sneaking your partner in your house, because you just know your parents.
This would always get them suspicious, whether or not you actually have a partner.
It doesn’t matter whether you are smiling to yourself because memes or smiling because you just came across some really cute cat videos, they’ll still be suspicious and would probably tighten your check.
Do master the art of keeping a poker face if you haven’t already. This is a skill that makes the survival possible. This is the skill you got to have to survive.
They hate your friends. They look at them with the eyes full of suspicion. They don’t like you hanging out with them or them hanging out with you. There are a very few friends they can actually tolerate. They always keep a check on you and whom you are hanging out with.
A spider in your bedroom may not be that much of a big deal but missed calls from your parents are a huge deal and enough to scare the crap out of you and they would call you 15 times in a row. 1 call from dad > 15 missed calls from mom. Sorry there is no escape from this one. You just gotta deal with it.
Moms can get like that when it comes to feeding you vegetables. From bengan to bhindi, she would be there making you eat it, claiming this is the best she had made so far but honestly it tastes no different than the last 30 times you ate it. She always ends up tricking you into eating it.
This is a dilemma. All desi parents, let alone strict desi parents wants you to treat them like friends and tell them everything but they would also flip when you do tell them, so you are just confused about whether or not to trust them and you just end up being secretive AF about your personal life.
You respect your parents but you just cannot open up to them. You love them but you just cannot open up to them and it is okay.
If you are a girl you probably go through it more than your brother(s) and you also probably hate them (your brothers) for it. Your parents are super protective of you and think your choice of clothes can land you in trouble, which in the ideal situation doesn’t have to be this way.
They occasionally ask you to tone it down and/or make you change. Don’t get them wrong, they think it is good for you and they are doing it in the best of their intentions.