Do you get teeth-chatteringly, heart-poundingly nervous before dates? You’re not alone! Pre-date nervousness is a common condition for many people playing the field. In some ways,it’s wonderfully exciting – but in other ways, it’s annoying and discouraging!Here are 5 quick tips for reducing your nerves so you can go on that date feeling confident and collected…
Develop a predate ritual :
Like Pavlov conditioned his dogs to drool at the sound of a bell,
you can condition yourself to feel strong and assured by creating your own predate ritual.
This could involve singing pop songs in the shower, spritzing on a scent you love, putting on
an outfit you know you feel great in, or any combination of other preparation steps designed
to amp up your self-esteem and smoothness. You’ll feel – and look – so much better once
this process is complete!
Tell a friend where you’re going and what you’re doing :
This can be helpful from a safety perspective – if, heaven forbid, anything goes wrong, at least one person will know where you are and what you’re up to – but it can also help calm you down. Talk with a friend about your plans, your apprehensions, and practical considerations like what to wear and what to talk about on the date. Don’t be afraid to ask for advice or assurance – a good friend will happily give you what you need!
Glance at the news beforehand, if you haven’t already :
Keeping up-to-date on current events gives you plenty to talk about if you or your date are lacking in the conversational skills department. It’s probably best to stay away from heavy topics like politics on a first date, but pop culture news (for example) always makes for a great conversation starter.
Triple-check your date plans :
You’ll feel much calmer if you know where you’re going, how to get there, what type of vibe the place has, what items are on the menu, what your date looks like, and so on. Much of this information is Google able, so you can arm yourself with
some calming knowledge before you walk into the date. If you’ll need a reservation for where
you’re going, make sure one of you has handled that!
Have an exit strategy :
If the date turns out to be terrible, you’ll need a method of escape. It could be as simple as saying, “I’ve got to get up early in the morning for work, so I’m going to head out,” or as complex as having a friend call you at an appointed time with a fake excuse if you send them the “Get me out of here!” text. Even if you never have to deploy this plan of action, you’ll feel better knowing you have it at the ready.
How do you like to prepare for dates to make sure you’re feeling your best?