On Breaking Up and Finding New Love
Break ups can be hard and they can be something that could lead you to a very bad place and honestly they do lead you to a dark place where you don’t want to be, but remember that it is not the end of the world.
Love and relationships are complicated and sometimes things go wrong, but that doesn’t mean that life’s over. Here are a couple of things that helped me through hardest times and led me where I am right now and trust me it is a far better place than where I used to be.
People fall in love and they fall out of love. It happens all the time and honestly it is easy and less heartbreaking to just walk out of a relationship than to hang onto something that’s doing nothing but hurting you.
Shit happens and it is okay. It hurts, yes but life never stops. Life goes on and it will always go on, no matter what. Life never stops for anybody.
No matter how much it hurts, no matter how much do you miss your partner, no matter how much you just want to hang on and no matter how much you want to make it work.
Some people are just not meant to be just like some things are not meant to happen and the longer you hang on to it, the more it hurts so it is better to let it go and move on with life.
Rebounds bring you more harm than good. They can be used as a distraction but on a longer run, they hurt so many people and destroy them emotionally.
Take your time. Rebounds never help and it is important to separate what you want and what you need; you might want a distraction but you mostly certainly don’t want a rebound and get you emotions fucked up to a next level.
Source: The Pioneer
Take your time and give yourself time. Spare some time out for yourself. Look for distractions, yes, but don’t search for them in other people or to be concise; in another relationship. Hang out with friends. Spend some time alone.
Stay in the present moment. Explore the world. Make a bucket list. Set your goals and priorities. Take a break because you honestly need it.
Empower yourself and learn to depend only on yourself. The only person that is going to be there for you is you. No matter how close is the other person to you they are all just going to leave one day.
Empower yourself enough and grow yourself enough to enjoy your own company. No, it doesn’t mean you isolate yourself, but it does mean that you learn to be confident and be comfortable in your own skin and stop caring about what other people has to say to you.
This is something we never actively do but this is probably the most important thing in life. Not only setting goals important but it is also very important to prioritize your goals and know what actually matters for you and what you are all about.
Discover yourself and live for yourself. What people say or do should not be your concern.
Rediscover yourself and remember that no matter what people say, that is not your problem. Do everything that your ex hated and do everything you always wanted to do.
Be you and make a difference. Don’t let anybody take the very core of your identity away from you. You are an amazing person and nobody can take that away from you.
Source: The Capital Post
Often when you are in a relationship, you tend to forget yourself and you adjust to make the other person comfortable but remember that you don’t have to do that.
You don’t have to accommodate anybody on the expense of your own comfort. You should be your first priority and don’t let anybody invade that.
It’s okay to put yourself first. It is okay to take care of your own self first. I am not saying, be a jerk to your partner or other people but just don’t let them treat you like shit and take away your peace of mind without any sense of accountability.
It is extremely hard to cope and be able to trust other people again when a person has screwed you up emotionally. Just remember that it was not your fault and that it happens but not everybody is the same.
Take baby steps and learn to love again. Define ‘’love’’ all over again. Redefine it. Don’t be afraid to love or you’ll miss the right person. If it doesn’t work out it doesn’t, don’t let the jerks turn you bitter. You deserve so much. You deserve so much better.
Never settle for anything less. Just know that you deserve the best and you just don’t have to settle for anything less. You don’t deserve to be treated like shit or not love or not pampered. Go out and live your life.
Don’t push yourself in a relationship just because all your friends are and you feel lonely. Never, I repeat, never force yourself into a relationship that you are not ready for. Take your time, know what you want and never lower down your standards for anybody.
Source: Radio City
This journey to self-discovery is hard but isn’t something impossible. Make this journey about yourself and not about other people.
People leave sooner or late so learn to do what’s best for you and what makes you happy.
Don’t hesitate to cut the toxic people out of your life. They don’t belong there and you don’t need them in your life either.