I read this quote somewhere (I can’t remember where) and thought this is so spot on I could literally just put it in a post and publish it. Somewhere along the way we decided to start ranking sins. To start rationalizing why one is okay and another isn’t. Obviously this stems from the cognitive dissonance that we feel about the sins we ourselves are making. But does that make it right? Are there really rankings to sins and should we look down on the people who sin higher up the ranks?
Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you, that said don't judge others, look under your sleeves first before pointing your finger at others.
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard someone say I hate people who do drugs when that person himself/herself commits zina. Or heard someone say bash a girl for dressing immodestly when they don’t even make an effort to pray 5 times a day.
|If you read those and thought to yourself, Wow you are right, even I’ve been a victim of this don’t worry. Its easy to fall into judging others to make yourself feel better. It’s Insecure-Islam. When you are insecure you want to find a flaw about someone and make it so they are below you. Athletic guy shoots a jump shot and misses. You talk smack about how he sucks and somehow throw a line about how his hair isn’t even that nice! A mashAllah(hot) girl walks in and you see one or her tags sticking out. You rag on how unkempt she is. It happens. Instead of bring ourselves up to a higher level we would rather stay where we are and rag on those around us to make ourselves look better.|
So why don’t we try and become better people and admit that our sins are just as smelly the next persons (see what I did there!?!?!)? Because its hard. Break up with my girlfriend? Hard. Stop smoking weed? Hard. Stop drinking? Hard. Stop having sex? Hard (Don’t laugh). Instead of putting forth the effort to fix it isn’t it easier to just rationalize it? WellI don’t do anything else except date and stuff so I’m going to allow myself this one vice Or At least I don’t do drugs, I would NEVER go that far We will do anything to make it better in our minds, including bring other people down.
Men can be angels too!
The next time you’re feeling a little Islam-insecurity don’t bring someone else down. We all have our own problems we need to overcome. Dumping more on top of those problems isn’t going to help anyone. Focus on the good they have and try to be like them until you are better. Forget about their sins. We all sin. That’s kind of the point. If we didn’t we would be angels. (Some of us are. Ladies am i right? Am i right ladies?!). Sorry. There is no easy fix. Just remind yourself we all sin. Just a little differently.