10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits That Every Desi Guy And Girl Should Give a Shot to
Trends are changing and so are the ways of meeting the potential partner and love interest. With online dating being on the rise and gaining popularity among millennials, most guys and girls are missing out on so much. The first step most definitely is to figure out on what exactly you are looking for. Are you looking for a hookup or you are looking for something more? Different people have different needs and that is totally okay, however, it is better to be very clear about it. Dating trends have changed but there certainly are some ‘’old school’’ dating trends that can bring more quality and substance to your potential relationship and give it an amazing start.
With online dating being on a rise, going out and actually meeting people is something people don’t really do now. While I found most of my dates online, but I genuinely miss meeting people traditionally and chatting with them face to face and not merely over the dating apps, with 1001 emojis and GIFs.
In a society where hookup culture is on a rise (and that is totally okay, by the way) a lot of people are confused about what they actually want. Before asking somebody out, you need to be clear about what you both want and where is this going. Communication is the key. Know where you stand and never keep your potential partner in the dark. The clearer you are the lesser are the chances of things going in the wrong direction.
Sex is a need and there is no denying that but dating is so much more than just sex or at least it used to be. Dating can be super fun and very fulfilling if you focus on enjoying yourself and not tearing each other's clothes off the first time you see them. Honestly, without a solid foundation, very few relationships tend to last.
A trend that is dying fast but it doesn’t have to be; opening doors for your date is a very sweet gesture and would certainly put a smile on your partner’s face. It is a gesture that says you care and that you are willing to put your partner’s comfort before your own and I think that is the sweetest thing. Out on the dates, guys opening doors for me come out as extremely sweet while the guys who don’t, appear rude and arrogant and that doesn’t really have a good impression. Be kind and polite.
I love little gifts and honestly, it doesn't have to be anything expensive. Giving a little gift is a very sweet gesture. How to get them a perfect gift? All you have to do is to pay attention. Did they mention that one book they always wanted to read? Get that book. Did they mention something they like and adore? Get it for them. If you feel like this is the person who wants to take things forward with, handmade gifts can do the magic. I absolutely love handwritten notes or letters, pair it up with a flower, a little teddy bear and/or chocolates and it is absolutely perfect.
Dates can be nerve wrecking and even more when it’s the first date. You wouldn’t want to do something that would make your partner feel uncomfortable. How would you know what makes them uncomfortable? Just ask. You want to put your arm around them? Want to take their hand? Ask if they are comfortable and wait for an answer, asking alone isn’t how it works. You want to take them to a drive? You want to drink together? Ask. It isn’t hard. Be considerate and put their comfort first.
The actual purpose of going out on a date is to get to know the other person, or at least it used to be. Engage yourself in the conversation. A nice conversation would tell you a lot about your date and that whether or not would that person can be your long-term partner. Find common interests and talk about them. Enjoy your time with them. That's what matters.
You might have met on an online dating website but using your phone while you are on a date is very disrespectful. If you feel like it isn’t working out, just politely leave. Being glued up to your phone is probably the worst thing you can do on a date. Do NOT do that. Turn your phone off or put it on silent if you cannot turn it off but honestly just do it. I cannot stress on it enough. You coming out on a date and having your date glued up to their phone Facebooking or Instagramming the pictures of their food (it actually happened), is probably the worst thing ever (no actually, the first thing is ghosting on your date, but you get the point)
Always, I repeat, always introduce your date if you accidentally run into someone you know. It is very awkward and offensive if there is a person standing in front of you talking to your date and you are just there sitting, not knowing what to do. Please save your partner that misery.
If somebody agreed to come out on a date with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they want to have sex with you. Respect their boundaries and do not automatically assume that they want it. It is also okay if they feel like it wouldn’t work out. Respect their boundaries and better luck next time.